Is there someone with whom you have repeated conflict? I’m not talking about an occasional disagreement. I’m talking about someone with whom you disagree on a regular basis?
Did you know that there is a pattern to your conflict that you follow as surely as the dance steps of a waltz? What if you could learn those steps and diffuse the situation before it erupts?
Hi folks. Steve Hammond here from HorselessRanch.com.
Drs. Kilmann and Thomas came up with a way to classify our behavior during conflict. They gave each of the five approaches an animal, rather than just a name.
They said that folks tend to be a shark, turtle, owl, teddy bear (OK, not a real animal), and fox. Each of these approach conflict in a predictable way.
What was amazing about their study was that when two people have repeated conflict, each has a progression of animals they use to deal with the conflict. Up to three of them.
If the conflict goes on long enough, each at their own determination, will switch to a second animal. Eventually, they will have a tertiary animal.
So, conflict with the same person begins to resemble a dance. Each person knows well the steps and repeats them with amazing predictability.
Understanding this dance can greatly reduce the stress and keep us from putting up barricades that prevent a solution. It can also help us not misinterpret the other person’s intentions and motives.
Well, that’s it for today.
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